Saturday: Part II

Ok, part two.....ready?
I will now proceed to explain how on this particular Saturday I started the day as a single woman and ended it with this on my left hand:

He was planning on proposing after finals were over in May but decided a few days ago he didn't want to wait.  He went to the jewelers on Friday and asked, "Uh....could you have this ready by tomorrow?"  They were great and even rush ordered it at no additional charge :)

 He picked me up Saturday evening with his cousin and other roommate and said we were going to go out to dinner but it was a surprise, so he blindfolded me.  Supposedly we needed to pick up their dates too. We drove for about an hour (well, I didn't even realize it at the time) and by the time we arrived at "the restaurant" I needed to use the bathroom (remember all that water I chugged after the gym.?  Yes.). He took my hand and lead me to a restroom.  I began wondering why it smelled like farm.....Hmm.  It seemed to take FOREVER to get there (I wasn't allowed to take off the blindfold until we were inside the bathroom), since I had NO idea what my surroundings included I was walking kinda slow.  He told me there was absolutely NO chance that I'd run into anything so I picked up the pace.  When I finished we walked back and I wondered where the other girls were.....

They helped me climb up onto something and it didn't take long to realize it was an airplane!  STILL blindfolded, they helped me sit and buckled me in.  He took off my blindfold once we were in the air and what a sight!  It was a smalle four-seater airplane and his roommate was pilot and cousin co-pilot, and we sat in the back.  It was really neat to see all the city lights.  We flew  for awhile passing a couple of temples and then circled just above the temple that we planned on getting married in.  At that point he smiled and said, "I have something for you!" and handed me a small gift box.  I opened it and he pulled out the ring box that was inside.  He said he would get down on one knee if he could....and then asked me to marry him! (of course I said YES!!). 

Funny enough, I had the feeling that's what would be happening as soon as he picked me up!

Welp.  That's the proposal story.

Isn't that so cool?!?!

I loved it.

I love HIM.

He is amazingly wonderful.

He has good taste. After all, he picked me..hehe...AND a gorgeous ring! :)

Dating him has been pure awesomeness and being engaged is pretty cool too!

We're getting married August 7th!!!!!!!!!!!  SO excited!

It was so bad that it's good!

"It was so bad that it's good!"

This is a phrase that has wandered into my mind recently.

In reference to one really bad relationship in particular, I've realized just how much appreciate the fact that it was SO bad it's actually GOOD!  Thanks to those "bad" experiences, I can now enjoy the good so much more!

All that stress, anxiety, worry, heartache, lameness, confusion, miscommunication, misunderstanding, frustration as well as a few tears and a bunch of terrible  blind dates (that felt like a huge waste of time)....All worth it.  Kinda reminds me of that book by Sheri Dew: "If Life Were Easy, It Wouldn't Be Hard".  Well duh....

More than once during some of those most troubling times in life I've been guilty of wishing I could have all the answers right then and there.  Just when I felt as if I'd explode from the seemingly unbearable uncertainty, knowing the Whys, Hows, What-ifs what have been just the ticket.  We can be such pansies sometimes, thinking to ourselves things like:

"It hurts!" 

"Take it away!"

"This is too hard!"

"If I could just know everything at that very moment the pain would go away, right?"

Honestly, I'm glad things don't work that way.  SO glad!  It's a wonderful feeling to look back and see how all those experiences have added up to make me into who I am today (and hopefully that is a better person).  How would we learn anything otherwise? To me it's yet another reminder of how aware God is of His children, and how everything is for our good and ultimately our happiness.

:)

People say the stupidest things sometimes

I was just talking to a friend of mine who's in her mid 20s.  She's dated quite a bit, and all kinds of guys.  She is a cute, sweet, smart, funny gal who has her head on straight and it just doesn't make sense that some amazing guy hasn't snatched her up yet.  She usually would let people set her up on dates and stuff, but has recently confessed she's gonna start being a little more picky from here on out. 

We started talking about the guys who have a hard time committing, others who are too eager to commit, the mystery guys who disappear just when things seem to be going great, the cowards who lead us on and suddenly never call again leaving us wondering if he was attacked by flying monkeys or something, there's the creeps who leave messages that include the latest weather report, and then....every now and then, a guy who takes some responsibility, actually CALLS to ask out on a date, AND communicates about his feelings.  Wow.  Refreshing!  And rare.

Well, just when we thought we'd heard all the excuses in the book, this one seemingly nice guy said what is possibly the most absurd of them all.....

"I feel like we don't really click.  I have a hard time relating to your culture."

(He even specified she might be better off with a guy who knows Spanish, how thoughtful!)

HA HA HAAAA! 
Wait a second.
 
WHAT?!?!
Seriously?!

Ok, you have to understand that my friend has lived here almost her entire life.  Most people have a hard time believing she wasn't born here.

His comment caught her off guard, but it took a full 24 hours for this absolutely ridiculous comment to sink in.  She asked some friends what they thought and one guy was like: "Is he retarded?  Latins are hot and good cooks!" another said, "That's just BS sister."

{Sigh}

 It's really sad how incompetent people can be.  Geez. 

I mean, Hello!  Pretty sure EVERY SINGLE PERSON ON THE PLANET HAS CULTURE! Duh.

Oh well.  I guess it takes a really lame guy to come up with that lame of an excuse.
Poor dude.

Dear Ex-Bf

I've seen people do this on blogs often and rather like the idea so you may see me do this from time to time.

Please understand this is just an outlet for my sarcastic/cynical sense of humor, not meant to portray a negative attitude...haha.

 

Dear Ex-BF:

Hey! I'm going shopping for a birthday present for my niece and nephew, will you tag along please? I know you forgot about me quickly and got engaged to another girl 2 months later and wow! You'll be married in like a month, isn't that right? So it's no big deal. I mean, you hung out with your ex's ALL the time when we were dating, so I KNOW your honey probably won't mind one bit! Well it's settled then. See you at 7:30!!!

Yours,

          Super Fox Ex-GF

Three's company? No thanks. (new version)

I once dated someone who's "best friend" was a girl. She had once been his girlfriend. She was now married. With a kid. I knew they emailed and talked frequently, but did it bother me? Initially, not too much. Sure, I thought it was a little abnormal, but was secure enough in our relationship that I hardly considered it to be an issue of concern.

Come to find out later -in the final stages of our break-up - that he still had feelings for her. Suddenly, that hurt. Although it was over with us and it didn't really matter anymore, I started thinking about it a little more. Perhaps that was one of several factors that lead to our relationship not working out? If his heart was still with this girl, how would it have worked out anyway(assuming I had ever made up my mind and felt ready to move forward with him)? I suppose we both had our own stumbling blocks.

As we talked he told me about his past few weeks; what he'd been up to, how she had been in town visiting, and how good it had been to see her and play with the baby. From what I understood, her husband was on active military duty, so he wasn't around but was aware of their friendship and apparently okay with it (a bit weird, don't you think? Hmm).

Okay so I don't know a whole lot of people who still keep in touch with an ex that is now married. Is there anything wrong with hanging out with a married person? No, of course not. Is it wrong to spend solo time with an ex I still have feelings for....uh...probably. I have friends whom I may have liked once, who are now married. Every now and then we may say hello and catch up briefly, but you'll never see me going out to lunch with them or something unless the Mrs. is there. Even though there are no longer any feelings whatsoever, even if she totally doesn't care, it's simply the principle of the matter.


Freely emailing, chatting, calling, texting, etc is totally ok when people are friends or dating, but once one or both marry, that sort of interaction should end. I didn't come up with this idea, the Bible says so, and I find the Bible to be a pretty credible source. (See [Gen. 2:24], “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” Once someone marries, maintain a friendship but keep it at an appropriate distance.

To back up my logic here, I was thinking about the scripture that counsels us to avoid the appearance of evil. I couldn't remember the exact reference so I looked it up and found this:

If you are married, be faithful to your spouse in your thoughts, words, and actions. The Lord has said: “Thou shalt love thy wife with all thy heart, and shalt cleave unto her and none else. And he that looketh upon a woman to lust after her shall deny the faith, and shall not have the Spirit; and if he repents not he shall be cast out” (D&C 42:22–23). Never flirt in any way. As much as possible, avoid being alone with anyone of the opposite sex. Ask yourself if your spouse would be pleased if he or she knew of your words or actions. Remember the Apostle Paul’s counsel to “abstain from all appearance of evil” (1 Thessalonians 5:22). When you stay away from such circumstances, temptation gets no chance to develop.

So am I just paranoid? Most people whom I unofficially polled on this said it was not cool. Hanging out while the spouse is away looks suspicious--regardless if 'nothing happens', it doesn't make a lot of sense. It just leaves the door for temptation open--if but a crack, why do that to yourself? Especially if one or both parties still have feelings for the other. I don't understand, what does it accomplish? Isn't keeping that friendship alive taking precedent over seeking your own companion? There are hundreds and thousands of stories where things started out small and innocent and before realizing what was happening, people found themselves in a sour situation.

The ironic thing about all this is that just before this conversation, we'd had a conversation about virtue. Interesting.

I'm not judging him or anyone. People can and will do what they want. I certainly don't claim to be perfect and have many flaws and weaknesses. I just felt like sharing this because we really can never be too careful.

"You are my exception"

Oh to hear those four words.....sigh.  Haha.

So I FINALLY saw that movie, "He's Just Not That Into You".  And yeah, I may have pulled a GiGi here and there.  And yes, I DO understand now, if the guy is interested he'll call, if he's not, he won't.  A few of my favorite parts:

* When GiGi was so convinced whats-his-face was interested in her and she goes in for the kiss and then he's like "what the heck?!" and then she storms out saying that even if she read the signs wrong at least she is closer to finding someone than he is because she allows herself to "feel" (something like that)  BOO-YAH!

*When Mary is talking about how she misses the old days when people had one phone number with one machine that had one little tape that either had a message on it or not and how frustrating it is to end up getting rejected by 7 different technologies!  haha.

*Where the married lady goes crazy and is throwing her scumbag cheating husband's clothes down the stairs....and then when bumface cheating husband gets home it shows the clothes and shoes neatly piled on the steps, color coded and in vacuum sealed packs.  (OCD! haha)

*When Ben Affleck's character (who doesn't believe in marriage) hides a ring in the pants Jennifer Aniston's character hates and is going to throw out, and he tells her to check the pockets first at least and then he proposes and says he just wants to make her happy and that if she's not happy he has absolutely no chance at being happy.  (Aw, cute)

So I came across a blog where someone was like "I believe in the 3 date rule"...as in, it takes at least 3 dates to give someone a fair chance before deciding to keep going or not.  Hmm...anyone agree?  I've been given a death sentence after one date (ending with, "keep in touch"....uh huh....okay!) and also the 3 date chance (led on and then dropped without forewarning.....  Everyone is different I guess!  Isn't it exciting!  You never know what you're gonna get!!!