Well, in 8 years I've had opportunity to date quite a few different guys. So here's a list of a few things I have found to really appreciate. And not necessarily in a dating situation, but in general. Good job boys. You are winners! Feel free to leave your thoughts!
It's pretty awesome when he......1) For starters....Makes a good use of his time by getting to know me and sincerely trying to be a friend. That obviously proves he is a smart guy. (haha. Please note, I am not on a high horse here, it's just sarcasm). He asks questions, and listens and sometimes even responds to the answers. It's really impressive when he remembers stuff too, especially little, unimportant details.
Example: I once told a guy that green was my favorite color. Who cares right? Next time we saw each other he said: "do you like my tie?" (It had green on it) "I wore it for you because you said you like green!" Awe!
2) Plans ahead.
I'm not opposed to spontaneity but plans are nice. It's less stressful. Or maybe just for me because I can never think of anything to do, so we usually end up hanging around at furniture stores!
3) Calls. (And also returns phone calls in an expeditious manner.)
Ok, we all know text messaging is less nerve wracking than actually talking to the person. But think of it this way, chances for rejection are that much higher because it's also easier to say no by text or email! Us girls are pretty terrifying creatures, I know. But just call and no one gets hurt! hehehe.
The Phone Call movie we watched in Seminary. Need I say more?
4) Gives sincere compliments.
Seriously, who doesn't like a compliment? It's a win-win situation!
So one time I was on a date with someone and we were talking about high school were talking about popularity and things like that. I was far from popular, but he said: "That's wierd, I figured you were probably Prom Queen because you are so beautiful!" And that pretty much made me feel really good!
5) Is respectful.
Opening doors, and all those chivalrous things....eating with his mouth closed, paying for things, saying "Thank you", gets me home before I turn into a pumpkin, punctuality, clean language, clean thoughts, etc.
6) Has a good sense of humor!
Sometimes I can be too serious so thanks for lightening me up!
7) Has high standards and isn't shy about it.
I went to a movie once and about 15 minutes into it, I was just about to suggest leaving. There was a lot of foul language unfortunately. Thankfully he wasn't afraid of standing up for his beliefs and he leaned over and said "Do you want to leave" What a relief! I was very grateful.
8) Goes the extra mile. (And literally!)
I went on a date with a guy from Ogden and our activity for the date was in Ogden. Well, he drove down to Salt Lake and picked me up and drove back up there. Then he drove me back home and he obviously had to drive all the way back home to Ogden again! Obviously gas prices these days don't make that a very convenient option, but I was really impressed that he did that and didn't complain at all. Made me feel like I was actually worth it, ya know? It was nice.
9) Is selfless.
It's easy to be selfish but takes true character to think of and serve others!
10) Is Honest.
Honesty is the best policy!
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