I was just talking to a friend of mine who's in her mid 20s. She's dated quite a bit, and all kinds of guys. She is a cute, sweet, smart, funny gal who has her head on straight and it just doesn't make sense that some amazing guy hasn't snatched her up yet. She usually would let people set her up on dates and stuff, but has recently confessed she's gonna start being a little more picky from here on out.
We started talking about the guys who have a hard time committing, others who are too eager to commit, the mystery guys who disappear just when things seem to be going great, the cowards who lead us on and suddenly never call again leaving us wondering if he was attacked by flying monkeys or something, there's the creeps who leave messages that include the latest weather report, and then....every now and then, a guy who takes some responsibility, actually CALLS to ask out on a date, AND communicates about his feelings. Wow. Refreshing! And rare.
Well, just when we thought we'd heard all the excuses in the book, this one seemingly nice guy said what is possibly the most absurd of them all.....
"I feel like we don't really click. I have a hard time relating to your culture."
(He even specified she might be better off with a guy who knows Spanish, how thoughtful!)
HA HA HAAAA!
Wait a second.
WHAT?!?!
Seriously?!
Ok, you have to understand that my friend has lived here almost her entire life. Most people have a hard time believing she wasn't born here.
His comment caught her off guard, but it took a full 24 hours for this absolutely ridiculous comment to sink in. She asked some friends what they thought and one guy was like: "Is he retarded? Latins are hot and good cooks!" another said, "That's just BS sister."
{Sigh}
It's really sad how incompetent people can be. Geez.
I mean, Hello! Pretty sure EVERY SINGLE PERSON ON THE PLANET HAS CULTURE! Duh.
Oh well. I guess it takes a really lame guy to come up with that lame of an excuse.
Poor dude.
Friday, November 27, 2009
Nanny Diaries
A few years ago I read the book The Nanny Diaries. Despite some language I didn't appreciate much, I really enjoyed this book and it was one I couldn't put down. I love the style in which it was written and I found it very funny.
While I was out of the country for a time, it turns out they made it into a movie. I forgot all about wanting to watch it until last night. I watched it on tvshack.net (you can watch movies and tv shows for free!).
I was a little wary because Scarlett Johansen is in it and I don't care much for her typically slutty roles....but I was actually surprised because it turned out to be pretty clean. They left out a lot of hilarious parts from the book and they could have done a better job of showing just how much Mrs. X took advantage of Nanny...but whatever.
Chris Evans played the Hayden the "Harvard Hottie". Makes me want to move back east and find my own! ;)
Sweet Black Friday
While some people gave up sleep and comfort to stand out in the frigid cold lines outside their favorite retail establishment to snag the "sweet deals" in the wee small hours of the morning, I slept in until about 10 in my nice roasty toasty bed. When I finally got up, I sank my teeth into my own sweet deal. These delightful chocolat chip sweet rolls that my mom and sis made last night..Mmm.
Shopping is so overrated anyway!
Wednesday, November 25, 2009
Dear Ex-Bf
I've seen people do this on blogs often and rather like the idea so you may see me do this from time to time.
Please understand this is just an outlet for my sarcastic/cynical sense of humor, not meant to portray a negative attitude...haha.
Dear Ex-BF:
Hey! I'm going shopping for a birthday present for my niece and nephew, will you tag along please? I know you forgot about me quickly and got engaged to another girl 2 months later and wow! You'll be married in like a month, isn't that right? So it's no big deal. I mean, you hung out with your ex's ALL the time when we were dating, so I KNOW your honey probably won't mind one bit! Well it's settled then. See you at 7:30!!!
Yours,
Super Fox Ex-GF
Wednesday, November 11, 2009
Yeah, it was gross.
This semester I'm in 3 health classes and I've definitely learned a lot (I know I promised once that I would post some stuff but sorry, I just didn't get around to it!) It's been nice because we have pretty much talked about the same things around the same time (a little more or a little less in depth on some topics, depending on the course),in all my classes, so the material has stayed in my brain a little better.
One of the more recent topics was on STDs (Sexually Transmitted Diseases) and STIs (Sexually Transmitted Infections). We discussed some alarming statistics, and saw some pretty nasty photos. I wanted to throw up. I was squirming in my chair because it was so gross.
It's hard for me to wrap my mind around some of the crazy, and in my opinion, reckless habits and lifestyles that are out there in the world. I just don't see how people can meet someone and choose to sleep with them that same night. I mean, I have a hard enough time holding hands even, sometimes! (just kidding)
Seriously though, with all the crap out there, I worry about people NOT worrying about stuff like that. But anyway, what kept popping into my mind over and over again was, how grateful I am for the way I was raised, for what the doctrine of my religion that has taught me about virtue, chastity, and most importantly I think, what it all boils down to: knowing I AM A CHILD OF GOD. This knowledge is everything. It's like Mufasa in the Lion King telling Simba: "Remember who you are". When we remember who we are life makes sense. Knowing this, everything else falls into place and explains WHY we should be virtuous an chaste. We have purpose and we have potential.
Three's company? No thanks. (new version)
I once dated someone who's "best friend" was a girl. She had once been his girlfriend. She was now married. With a kid. I knew they emailed and talked frequently, but did it bother me? Initially, not too much. Sure, I thought it was a little abnormal, but was secure enough in our relationship that I hardly considered it to be an issue of concern.
Come to find out later -in the final stages of our break-up - that he still had feelings for her. Suddenly, that hurt. Although it was over with us and it didn't really matter anymore, I started thinking about it a little more. Perhaps that was one of several factors that lead to our relationship not working out? If his heart was still with this girl, how would it have worked out anyway(assuming I had ever made up my mind and felt ready to move forward with him)? I suppose we both had our own stumbling blocks.
As we talked he told me about his past few weeks; what he'd been up to, how she had been in town visiting, and how good it had been to see her and play with the baby. From what I understood, her husband was on active military duty, so he wasn't around but was aware of their friendship and apparently okay with it (a bit weird, don't you think? Hmm).
Okay so I don't know a whole lot of people who still keep in touch with an ex that is now married. Is there anything wrong with hanging out with a married person? No, of course not. Is it wrong to spend solo time with an ex I still have feelings for....uh...probably. I have friends whom I may have liked once, who are now married. Every now and then we may say hello and catch up briefly, but you'll never see me going out to lunch with them or something unless the Mrs. is there. Even though there are no longer any feelings whatsoever, even if she totally doesn't care, it's simply the principle of the matter.
Freely emailing, chatting, calling, texting, etc is totally ok when people are friends or dating, but once one or both marry, that sort of interaction should end. I didn't come up with this idea, the Bible says so, and I find the Bible to be a pretty credible source. (See [Gen. 2:24], “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” Once someone marries, maintain a friendship but keep it at an appropriate distance.
To back up my logic here, I was thinking about the scripture that counsels us to avoid the appearance of evil. I couldn't remember the exact reference so I looked it up and found this:
If you are married, be faithful to your spouse in your thoughts, words, and actions. The Lord has said: “Thou shalt love thy wife with all thy heart, and shalt cleave unto her and none else. And he that looketh upon a woman to lust after her shall deny the faith, and shall not have the Spirit; and if he repents not he shall be cast out” (D&C 42:22–23). Never flirt in any way. As much as possible, avoid being alone with anyone of the opposite sex. Ask yourself if your spouse would be pleased if he or she knew of your words or actions. Remember the Apostle Paul’s counsel to “abstain from all appearance of evil” (1 Thessalonians 5:22). When you stay away from such circumstances, temptation gets no chance to develop.
So am I just paranoid? Most people whom I unofficially polled on this said it was not cool. Hanging out while the spouse is away looks suspicious--regardless if 'nothing happens', it doesn't make a lot of sense. It just leaves the door for temptation open--if but a crack, why do that to yourself? Especially if one or both parties still have feelings for the other. I don't understand, what does it accomplish? Isn't keeping that friendship alive taking precedent over seeking your own companion? There are hundreds and thousands of stories where things started out small and innocent and before realizing what was happening, people found themselves in a sour situation.
The ironic thing about all this is that just before this conversation, we'd had a conversation about virtue. Interesting.
I'm not judging him or anyone. People can and will do what they want. I certainly don't claim to be perfect and have many flaws and weaknesses. I just felt like sharing this because we really can never be too careful.
Come to find out later -in the final stages of our break-up - that he still had feelings for her. Suddenly, that hurt. Although it was over with us and it didn't really matter anymore, I started thinking about it a little more. Perhaps that was one of several factors that lead to our relationship not working out? If his heart was still with this girl, how would it have worked out anyway(assuming I had ever made up my mind and felt ready to move forward with him)? I suppose we both had our own stumbling blocks.
As we talked he told me about his past few weeks; what he'd been up to, how she had been in town visiting, and how good it had been to see her and play with the baby. From what I understood, her husband was on active military duty, so he wasn't around but was aware of their friendship and apparently okay with it (a bit weird, don't you think? Hmm).
Okay so I don't know a whole lot of people who still keep in touch with an ex that is now married. Is there anything wrong with hanging out with a married person? No, of course not. Is it wrong to spend solo time with an ex I still have feelings for....uh...probably. I have friends whom I may have liked once, who are now married. Every now and then we may say hello and catch up briefly, but you'll never see me going out to lunch with them or something unless the Mrs. is there. Even though there are no longer any feelings whatsoever, even if she totally doesn't care, it's simply the principle of the matter.
Freely emailing, chatting, calling, texting, etc is totally ok when people are friends or dating, but once one or both marry, that sort of interaction should end. I didn't come up with this idea, the Bible says so, and I find the Bible to be a pretty credible source. (See [Gen. 2:24], “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” Once someone marries, maintain a friendship but keep it at an appropriate distance.
To back up my logic here, I was thinking about the scripture that counsels us to avoid the appearance of evil. I couldn't remember the exact reference so I looked it up and found this:
If you are married, be faithful to your spouse in your thoughts, words, and actions. The Lord has said: “Thou shalt love thy wife with all thy heart, and shalt cleave unto her and none else. And he that looketh upon a woman to lust after her shall deny the faith, and shall not have the Spirit; and if he repents not he shall be cast out” (D&C 42:22–23). Never flirt in any way. As much as possible, avoid being alone with anyone of the opposite sex. Ask yourself if your spouse would be pleased if he or she knew of your words or actions. Remember the Apostle Paul’s counsel to “abstain from all appearance of evil” (1 Thessalonians 5:22). When you stay away from such circumstances, temptation gets no chance to develop.
So am I just paranoid? Most people whom I unofficially polled on this said it was not cool. Hanging out while the spouse is away looks suspicious--regardless if 'nothing happens', it doesn't make a lot of sense. It just leaves the door for temptation open--if but a crack, why do that to yourself? Especially if one or both parties still have feelings for the other. I don't understand, what does it accomplish? Isn't keeping that friendship alive taking precedent over seeking your own companion? There are hundreds and thousands of stories where things started out small and innocent and before realizing what was happening, people found themselves in a sour situation.
The ironic thing about all this is that just before this conversation, we'd had a conversation about virtue. Interesting.
I'm not judging him or anyone. People can and will do what they want. I certainly don't claim to be perfect and have many flaws and weaknesses. I just felt like sharing this because we really can never be too careful.
Saturday, November 7, 2009
Cream of Mushroom Soup
Every Friday at work, one lucky soul gets to clean out the fridges in the break room. Anything that is not labeled properly goes in the garbage. I am ever so grateful to those brave people who take to this rigorously disgusting task.
One such Friday, I went to the break room and wrinkled my nose as I noticed what the source of the stench was. What appeared at first glance to be someone's cream of mushroom soup, upon closer examination I discovered those gray spore-like things were NOT mushrooms, but MOLD!
EWWWWWW!
Not quite sure why the fridge cleaners decided to leave out the containers with the forgotten soup. I would've just chucked the whole thing, tupperware and all. I mean, if the owner forgot about their soup long enough for it to grow a fungi farm, are they really gonna miss their precious container? I think not.
Also, I love how it was strategically placed so that the contents of the container were exposed-- making the already stangnant dungeon air toxic-- and also putting the lid on display, as if silently advertising, "Don't let this happen to you!"
One such Friday, I went to the break room and wrinkled my nose as I noticed what the source of the stench was. What appeared at first glance to be someone's cream of mushroom soup, upon closer examination I discovered those gray spore-like things were NOT mushrooms, but MOLD!
EWWWWWW!
Not quite sure why the fridge cleaners decided to leave out the containers with the forgotten soup. I would've just chucked the whole thing, tupperware and all. I mean, if the owner forgot about their soup long enough for it to grow a fungi farm, are they really gonna miss their precious container? I think not.
Also, I love how it was strategically placed so that the contents of the container were exposed-- making the already stangnant dungeon air toxic-- and also putting the lid on display, as if silently advertising, "Don't let this happen to you!"
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