Hey hey, it's been awhile, I know. Life has been and continues to be crazy busy.
Well, the wedding was fabulous!!! Everything turned out perfect and we are so grateful for the many friends and family who supported us and helped in all sorts of ways. It was a beautiful day all around. Although parts of the day are now a happy blur, it was very memorable and B and I were both very pleased with how things just worked out and with everyone behind the scenes, it all went smoothly and we didn't have to worry about a thing.
As wonderful as it all was, I have a teeny tiny confession. There is a little part of me that is a little....sad? Yeah, so maybe it's that hard-to-please bit in me...don't judge, remember I'm only human. It's just that....ok here goes.
When coming up with the guest list I thought about it for several weeks. I made list after list (partly because I'd make one and lose it and have to start over). I thought of all the people I've met throughout my life and of course I wasn't expecting every single person to show up. I hoped not to miss anyone. Well, when the day finally arrived, it was interesting who ended up coming and who didn't. A bunch of people whom I thought probably wouldn't come, were there. Others didn't show and it was no shocker due to an already flakey reputation. What makes me a bit sad though is the ones who didn't come, but I thought would be there. Particularly those whose bridal showers, weddings, birthdays, baby showers, etc I've made an effort to attend over the years. I realize stuff comes up and appreciate those who after-the-fact sent a message or card indicating how much they would've liked to have been there but for (blank) reason coudn't, but others, I'm surprised at the lack of acknowledgment. Makes me think: Hmm..it's only like....one of the MOST important moments of my life....why weren't you there to share it with me? It was eye opening to see who really cares about me and who doesn't. That might sound bratty, but really I think that's what it comes down to. Guess I know who I can and can't count on, eh?
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I can't help but feel guilty that I might be one of those. I really wanted to go but it was my birthday and I had already made plans for a party. I'm so sorry I couldn't make it, but I am very glad I could have come to your bridal shower for at least a little bit! I hope you can forgive my absence and know that your support always meant a lot to me and I wish I could have returned it to you in a more substantial way. I am here for you though. Rick and I would love to have you and your new hubby over sometime for dinner!! :) What do you say?
ReplyDeleteGirl - I so know what you mean!! When Brandon and I got married, we both were shocked about who actually came and who didn't. We were so very grateful for the ones who were there, and wondered about the ones who didn't show up. I remember even going through my RSVP list, and seeing who actually didn't come that said they would be there. It's hard to know that some of the people you wanted to share that day with wasn't there to share it with you, but in the end, the only thing that matters is that you married the one you love and you got to share that with those who were there! But I totally understand what you mean, and how you feel!!!
ReplyDeleteOne thing that I've come to realize is that people are not as genuine as they appear. I've also lowered my expectations from people, then I don't end up as dissappointed... (We've talked about this...)Frankly, it's somewhat interesting, you end up knowing who your true friends are, and that your family is always there for you, and that's who trully matters in the end. (I'm not saying that those that didn't show up are not genuine, few probably had legitimate excuses...)
ReplyDeleteThis blog post was great. I love it when you speak your mind and you do it with such eloquence so not to hurt anyone but just get your feelings out! I am in complete agreement with your sis and hope you feel better about this little part of your beautiful day!
ReplyDelete"No can make you feel inferior without your consent." - Eleanor Roosevelt
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